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Help[Opinions] Re: Three sets of badly named twins.
in reply to a message by Siri
My facial expression is in a deep, sad, scowl.
I hate (I never use the word hate when it comes to names, but now I can't help it) when parents use any kind of theme, rhyme, variation of a name, or same initial name when it comes to naming twins, or any kind of multiple child set. Naming multiples is not a fun game! Yes, it's exciting to be expecting twins, and a joy must fill the parent's hearts at the prospect of what will come, but that should be all the more reason to take the naming process seriously!
It's serious because identity plays a big role in naming twins. Not only do they have the possibility sharing the same facial features, but the same birthday - and who knows - depending upon the parent(s), the same clothing, haircuts, etc., and in the case of the first two poor girls, they are attached to one another, and have names that attach them even the more! Why do parents plague their children with these names? It's cute the first day, and maybe even when their five, but when it's time to host that big birthday bash, and Lacey and Macey are announced to the room of guests, it's no longer cute (I think).
Anyway, I only like the name Rose.
I hate (I never use the word hate when it comes to names, but now I can't help it) when parents use any kind of theme, rhyme, variation of a name, or same initial name when it comes to naming twins, or any kind of multiple child set. Naming multiples is not a fun game! Yes, it's exciting to be expecting twins, and a joy must fill the parent's hearts at the prospect of what will come, but that should be all the more reason to take the naming process seriously!
It's serious because identity plays a big role in naming twins. Not only do they have the possibility sharing the same facial features, but the same birthday - and who knows - depending upon the parent(s), the same clothing, haircuts, etc., and in the case of the first two poor girls, they are attached to one another, and have names that attach them even the more! Why do parents plague their children with these names? It's cute the first day, and maybe even when their five, but when it's time to host that big birthday bash, and Lacey and Macey are announced to the room of guests, it's no longer cute (I think).
Anyway, I only like the name Rose.
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You make a great point...
... about not naming twins things like Aimee and Ashley, or Joel and Cole. Like you said, these kids already share so much, why make them share the uniqueness of their name?
However, while I am against obvious name links- (same initial, rhyming, etc.) I absolutely love the concept of 'themed' names. I don't think that's cruel to do to your twins, as long as the children made to understand that they are two very different, very special people who just happen to have shared the same womb.
I think parents of twins should do everything they can possibly do to emphasize each child's individuality, but that doesn't mean denying the obvious- like it or not, these kids Are related (moreso than normal siblings), and that fact should be celebrated. They're going to have a special bond between them for their entire lives, and (assuming all goes well in raising them), will probably end up each other's best friend. To me it seems wrong to select two completely unrelated names for your twins, even if the names flow well together, but an obvious way to get around this is to use family names and use them often~ my best childhood friend was a twin. She was named Emmaline (Emma) after the maternal grandmother, and her brother was named Joseph after the paternal grandfather.
So, on a related note, we just found out my brother-in-law and his wife are expecting twins. At first they were going to go with some horrible combination like Joseph and Jacob but I begged them not to, and introduced my bil's wife to this site. They're now obsessed with the "name themes" page, and quite honestly, I think they've made some pretty great combinations that still aren't obviously related. For instance, just a few they've come up with:
... about not naming twins things like Aimee and Ashley, or Joel and Cole. Like you said, these kids already share so much, why make them share the uniqueness of their name?
However, while I am against obvious name links- (same initial, rhyming, etc.) I absolutely love the concept of 'themed' names. I don't think that's cruel to do to your twins, as long as the children made to understand that they are two very different, very special people who just happen to have shared the same womb.
I think parents of twins should do everything they can possibly do to emphasize each child's individuality, but that doesn't mean denying the obvious- like it or not, these kids Are related (moreso than normal siblings), and that fact should be celebrated. They're going to have a special bond between them for their entire lives, and (assuming all goes well in raising them), will probably end up each other's best friend. To me it seems wrong to select two completely unrelated names for your twins, even if the names flow well together, but an obvious way to get around this is to use family names and use them often~ my best childhood friend was a twin. She was named Emmaline (Emma) after the maternal grandmother, and her brother was named Joseph after the paternal grandfather.
So, on a related note, we just found out my brother-in-law and his wife are expecting twins. At first they were going to go with some horrible combination like Joseph and Jacob but I begged them not to, and introduced my bil's wife to this site. They're now obsessed with the "name themes" page, and quite honestly, I think they've made some pretty great combinations that still aren't obviously related. For instance, just a few they've come up with:
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