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Help[Opinions] I think 14 year olds should refrain from having children
in reply to a message by Roxanne
And most of them should refrain from naming them.
I don't like the spelling of Lili. It looks like lee-lee to me. Lotus is awful.
I don't like the spelling of Lili. It looks like lee-lee to me. Lotus is awful.
This message was edited 8/26/2007, 2:24 PM
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Not all 14 year old parents are bad or have bad naming tastes. I know a few woman who have had kids at 14 or 15 and their children have lovely names (that are spelt properly)
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I know of a lot more than 'a few' that did not make good choices when naming their children (nor at doing much else). But I see that a lot at every age, from the early teens to the late 40s--bad choices. :-/
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I know someone who had a baby at 15, and named him Christopher Ryan.
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Blah! :P
I would change my name when I was older if those were either of my names. I would change my name just before college. But when I was younger I'd either go by Mira for Miracle Desire or Mimi or Mia for MiAngel Destiny. Or maybe I would have just told people that my name was Mira Desirae or Mirabel Desirae instead of Miracle Destiny or Mia Angeline or Mia Desta or Mia Desdemona instead of MiAngel Destiny.
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I would change my name when I was older if those were either of my names. I would change my name just before college. But when I was younger I'd either go by Mira for Miracle Desire or Mimi or Mia for MiAngel Destiny. Or maybe I would have just told people that my name was Mira Desirae or Mirabel Desirae instead of Miracle Destiny or Mia Angeline or Mia Desta or Mia Desdemona instead of MiAngel Destiny.
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Although I suppose it's good
that these girls know they were a miracle, and desired!
that these girls know they were a miracle, and desired!
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Personally..
I think that she can name her kids whatever she wants, no matter what her age. They ARE her kids, after all. If for whatever reason I got pregnant at fourteen (NOT going to happen, totally hypethetical), I would be furious if my parents named them. And she didn't neccessarily just say, "I'm fourteen, so I want kids!"
But that's just me.
I think that she can name her kids whatever she wants, no matter what her age. They ARE her kids, after all. If for whatever reason I got pregnant at fourteen (NOT going to happen, totally hypethetical), I would be furious if my parents named them. And she didn't neccessarily just say, "I'm fourteen, so I want kids!"
But that's just me.
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I agree completely
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I agree
However, I can see where Rachel comes from seeing as a lot of teenage mothers choose horrible names, in the aspect of trendiness, creative, and spelling. Then again, older parents do the same thing, just doesnt seem to be as often.
However, I can see where Rachel comes from seeing as a lot of teenage mothers choose horrible names, in the aspect of trendiness, creative, and spelling. Then again, older parents do the same thing, just doesnt seem to be as often.
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"And she didn't neccessarily just say, "I'm fourteen, so I want kids!"
Umm...but she should have atleast understood that at 14, when you have sex, you can get pregnant. I hate it when people say just because someone is young doesn't mean they didn't want to get pregnant. You shouldn't have sex unless you are mature enough to have kids because no matter how hard you try accidents happen.
Okay, I am stepping off of my soapbox now.
Umm...but she should have atleast understood that at 14, when you have sex, you can get pregnant. I hate it when people say just because someone is young doesn't mean they didn't want to get pregnant. You shouldn't have sex unless you are mature enough to have kids because no matter how hard you try accidents happen.
Okay, I am stepping off of my soapbox now.
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"I hate it when people say just because someone is young doesn't mean they didn't want to get pregnant"
I don't think anyone's saying she didn't know what she was doing and what could happen just because she was young. I have three kids, I've known you can get pregnant since health class in 6th grade. But that doesn't mean I wanted to get pregnant any of the times that I did. I was 17 when I got pregnant the first time. I knew what could come from having sex, but I sure as hell didn't want to get pregnant at that age. Stuff happens, sometimes it could be avoided very easily but that's life.
I like both names although Lotus is nms. At least she didn't name them something like Lemmyn & Unique.
I don't think anyone's saying she didn't know what she was doing and what could happen just because she was young. I have three kids, I've known you can get pregnant since health class in 6th grade. But that doesn't mean I wanted to get pregnant any of the times that I did. I was 17 when I got pregnant the first time. I knew what could come from having sex, but I sure as hell didn't want to get pregnant at that age. Stuff happens, sometimes it could be avoided very easily but that's life.
I like both names although Lotus is nms. At least she didn't name them something like Lemmyn & Unique.
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And you don't know the circumstances around the pregnancy
She may have been raped, she might have a had a history of sexual abuse which puts a girl psychologically at risk of becoming promiscuous, she could have been physically abused, had an absent father- both of which put a young girl at risk of being manipulated by an older boy.
So how about you don't be so judgemental on that soapbox.
She may have been raped, she might have a had a history of sexual abuse which puts a girl psychologically at risk of becoming promiscuous, she could have been physically abused, had an absent father- both of which put a young girl at risk of being manipulated by an older boy.
So how about you don't be so judgemental on that soapbox.
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You're so right.
There are so many other factors into it. This site isn't about the age people have children anyway. Its to discuss names.
I like the combination. They're not really my style but they're cute. Lili and Lotus. Interesting and unique without going over the top. I like that she honored her grandmothers too.
There are so many other factors into it. This site isn't about the age people have children anyway. Its to discuss names.
I like the combination. They're not really my style but they're cute. Lili and Lotus. Interesting and unique without going over the top. I like that she honored her grandmothers too.
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I agree
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I agree...I was judgemental. Mostly it is because the people I know of that get pregnant in their teens with unwanted pregnancies (not that I even know her pregnancy was unwanted from the start, but am just guessing) come up with some lame excuse that they thought they would never get pregnant. I am in no way attempting to downplay the things you mentioned nor am I saying those things did not happen to her. I was simply ranting about something that I often see and am annoyed by...it really had nothing to do with her but simply sparked a rant of mine.
I'm sorry if I offended anyone.
I'm sorry if I offended anyone.
This message was edited 8/26/2007, 5:52 PM
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Amen.
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She probably thinks so too, right about now.
however, I wish them all the best. And teen-aged mothers *do* grow up, it's not a permanent state.
I quite like the names, Lili and Lotus..both flowers.
however, I wish them all the best. And teen-aged mothers *do* grow up, it's not a permanent state.
I quite like the names, Lili and Lotus..both flowers.
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