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Help[Opinions] Re: Cora / Kiara
in reply to a message by quigonjecca
I have six adopted kids and have changed entirely or partially four of their names (and changed the spelling on the fifth)... two of them were 4 & 7 when the name changes occurred, and they were great with it. Actually, for the one who was seven, I just gave him a new middle name (he okayed it) and after the adoption he informed everyone we could only call him by his new middle name! LOL! So I know it IS doable, depending on the child.
I have three foster kids whom I will be adopting (a sibling group), and I won't be changing the eldest (8 yr olds) name at all because I can tell that would not be good for him.
I think Cora would be open to it, but if she is really against it I wouldn't do it. But I want to have some things in mind before I talk to her about it. Her mn is Conswella.
My adopted kids are:
~Deontay James
~Kiara Joy (was Keaira Joilisa, she was 4 at time of adopting and totally oblivious to the change)
~Darnell Stephen (goes by Stephen)
~Raelyn Shayde (was Charlene Raejean, but always went by Rae so we still call her that; she was four and was totally thrilled!)
~Jessie Eowyn (she was two and didn't even realized when I switched her name from Laterrika Tytianna)
~Joseph David (he was an infant so I totally changed his, too, from Sanson Dionte)
the foster kids are
~Dontalyon Eliajah - I will drop that extra "a" from Eliajah because he doesn't know how to spell it; he goes by Don and is pretty attached to and proud of his name - Don Eliajah, but seems embarrassed by Dontalyon, but I really don't think he'll want to change it, so I'm not going to go there with him
~Cora Conswella
~Benjamin Davontaye (he's two, I'm going to change it to Benjamin Shawn, NONE of the kids even knew he had a middle name, same with Cora, they all told me her mn was Princess! ROFL)
I have three foster kids whom I will be adopting (a sibling group), and I won't be changing the eldest (8 yr olds) name at all because I can tell that would not be good for him.
I think Cora would be open to it, but if she is really against it I wouldn't do it. But I want to have some things in mind before I talk to her about it. Her mn is Conswella.
My adopted kids are:
~Deontay James
~Kiara Joy (was Keaira Joilisa, she was 4 at time of adopting and totally oblivious to the change)
~Darnell Stephen (goes by Stephen)
~Raelyn Shayde (was Charlene Raejean, but always went by Rae so we still call her that; she was four and was totally thrilled!)
~Jessie Eowyn (she was two and didn't even realized when I switched her name from Laterrika Tytianna)
~Joseph David (he was an infant so I totally changed his, too, from Sanson Dionte)
the foster kids are
~Dontalyon Eliajah - I will drop that extra "a" from Eliajah because he doesn't know how to spell it; he goes by Don and is pretty attached to and proud of his name - Don Eliajah, but seems embarrassed by Dontalyon, but I really don't think he'll want to change it, so I'm not going to go there with him
~Cora Conswella
~Benjamin Davontaye (he's two, I'm going to change it to Benjamin Shawn, NONE of the kids even knew he had a middle name, same with Cora, they all told me her mn was Princess! ROFL)
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That's a lot of kids! But it's so awesome that you're able to give them all a loving home. :) I've seen situations where older foster children that are adopted want to change their name, like a new start = new name. So I'd leave it up to her, really. I definitely wouldn't just pick something and start calling her that, but that's not what you're suggesting at all anyway. If she's attached to Cora, though, I agree with other posters that yes, it will be confusing for a while but everyone will adjust. Also, you could (if she's willing) call Kiara "Kiki" sometimes to distinguish between the two.
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my three foster kids have three other biological siblings. My friend took placement of two of them, their birth names are Diamond Saraih Tierra, and Matthew William Jr. I know she is changing Diamonds name upon adoption, but not Matthew. The last sibling, niether of us was able to get placement of, but his name is Donta Michael (called "Donte"). the birth mom is pg with another (who is going straight into foster care, unfortunately), but it will be interesting to see what she names her.
There are two older siblings that we have no info but Don said he thought their names were Queenie and Shauntay (spelling?!?!)
There are two older siblings that we have no info but Don said he thought their names were Queenie and Shauntay (spelling?!?!)
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