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Help[Opinions] Re: Tristan...wdyt?
in reply to a message by Lissa
Honestly?
Hate it. First time I heard of a boy named Tristan, it was 1 of those "What were the parents thinking to give their boy such a girly sounding name?!" Why would you want to name a kid "sad"? And yes, it does sound super effeminate... like Kristen w/ a T and an a instead of a K and an e or i... sounds really girly imo. I know it's used more on boys, but it doesn't sound like it belongs on them. Plus, it falls into the really trendy names that suddenly became popular out of nowhere in the past decade or 2.
I realize there are plenty of people out there who like it, but most don't give its meaning much thought.
Sorry if it sounds rough, but you asked and it's better for you to know people's thinking clearly before lumping a kid w/ a name like that than after.
Hate it. First time I heard of a boy named Tristan, it was 1 of those "What were the parents thinking to give their boy such a girly sounding name?!" Why would you want to name a kid "sad"? And yes, it does sound super effeminate... like Kristen w/ a T and an a instead of a K and an e or i... sounds really girly imo. I know it's used more on boys, but it doesn't sound like it belongs on them. Plus, it falls into the really trendy names that suddenly became popular out of nowhere in the past decade or 2.
I realize there are plenty of people out there who like it, but most don't give its meaning much thought.
Sorry if it sounds rough, but you asked and it's better for you to know people's thinking clearly before lumping a kid w/ a name like that than after.
This message was edited 7/4/2010, 7:40 PM
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I hear what people are saying, I guess I just wish it wasn't so - I equate Tristan as just as masculine a name as Gavin (Gawain) or Arthur, because of the connotation... but I see how similar sounds to Trisha, Kristen, etc. can get in the way. And unfortunately most people who I have spoken to have never heard of or read anything to do with Tristan, so I can't judge them for lack of familiarity with the masculinity of the name.
It's just too bad.
It's just too bad.
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There are a # of "boys' names" though that sound fem. regardless of the masculinity of those they're pasted on... Liam and Brendan and Brayden for example. They're all very much boys' names, but that doesn't make them sound any less effeminate. I'm sure there were reasons why Marion became a girls' name and is hardly ever used on boys anymore. Liam has a history, but is still too close to Leanne for my liking. Brendan looks and sounds like Brenda w/ an n and Brayden just sounds girly like it falls in the same category. However, all have become trendy and widely accepted.
My main problem w/ Tristan though is the idea of giving a child a name w/ a rather unfortunate meaning... Same reason things that mean blind, deceiver, lame, weak eyes etc. get thrown out immediately for me. If you wish to lump your kid w/ a name that means sad, that's your perogative. Whether or not the kid's ok w/ that or even cares will depend on the kid, but since I'd only be wishing good things for my children (life gives enough knocks in itself for them to overcome and be strengthened by), I consider the meaning as a major part in my choices of potential names.
My main problem w/ Tristan though is the idea of giving a child a name w/ a rather unfortunate meaning... Same reason things that mean blind, deceiver, lame, weak eyes etc. get thrown out immediately for me. If you wish to lump your kid w/ a name that means sad, that's your perogative. Whether or not the kid's ok w/ that or even cares will depend on the kid, but since I'd only be wishing good things for my children (life gives enough knocks in itself for them to overcome and be strengthened by), I consider the meaning as a major part in my choices of potential names.
This message was edited 7/4/2010, 11:00 PM
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Though people THINK Tristan means "sad", it actually doesn't - it means "riot; tumult". I was glad to discover that - I too was saddened by the name meaning "sad".
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Riot and tumult still don't make it very attractive to me... though maybe a step up, I'm not so sure... riots often lead to violence and that doesn't appeal either.
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