[Opinions] Re: If you had a difficult-to-pronounce name...
in reply to a message by Theodora'sMommy
My name isn't hard to pronounce, but I've been called Troy, Tony, Cory, Lori, Vanessa, Virginia, Virginie, Vicky, and probably other things...none of which are my name...because they misread it or misheard it or just forgot. I only correct people if I'm going to be around them continuously - let's say - if I'll be interacting with them for a week or more, or if we're around other people to whom the mistake is obvious, then I'll correct them. Otherwise, I wouldn't bother.
I only get frustrated when after correcting people, they continue to use the wrong name; like if they call me Vicky even if I've made a point of saying 'if you'd prefer to use a nickname, it's Tory', that's frustrating. In that case, I wouldn't answer or react like they're saying my name, because they're not, intentionally.
I think I'd be tempted not to respond if I had a difficult-to-pronounce name and someone kept getting it wrong over and over, but it'd depend if it was truly difficult (like had sounds that didn't exist in their native language), or if it was just strange...if it was just strange, then I'd expect people to make an effort to get it right, once I corrected them. But it might depend on whether or not I liked the "correct" pronunciation.
Tory is almost always misspelled. I never correct people about that, even when it's family doing it or people I talk to regularly, because I get it; it's a weird spelling that not even I like. I correct people when they misspell my surname, which also happens often, because that's more likely to be for official paperwork.
I only get frustrated when after correcting people, they continue to use the wrong name; like if they call me Vicky even if I've made a point of saying 'if you'd prefer to use a nickname, it's Tory', that's frustrating. In that case, I wouldn't answer or react like they're saying my name, because they're not, intentionally.
I think I'd be tempted not to respond if I had a difficult-to-pronounce name and someone kept getting it wrong over and over, but it'd depend if it was truly difficult (like had sounds that didn't exist in their native language), or if it was just strange...if it was just strange, then I'd expect people to make an effort to get it right, once I corrected them. But it might depend on whether or not I liked the "correct" pronunciation.
Tory is almost always misspelled. I never correct people about that, even when it's family doing it or people I talk to regularly, because I get it; it's a weird spelling that not even I like. I correct people when they misspell my surname, which also happens often, because that's more likely to be for official paperwork.
This message was edited 3/16/2020, 10:53 PM