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[Opinions] Joy
What do you think of Joy? I think it’s beautiful but might be hard to live up to. Also I think Joy as an emotion is overrated; contentment is more important (but I’m not gonna name a kid Contentment.)

This message was edited 1/13/2024, 5:25 AM

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I like it
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I love the overall meanings with the name Joy, and used to absolutely love this name. Nowadays, I do find it somewhat cheesy; I'd probably go with Joyce for a girl instead.
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I think it could just become someone's name without tying them to the emotion, forever. I can see a regular person named Joy who goes through bouts of depression/anxiety, and no one holding them to their name. People don't really do that. As far the emotion itself goes, I don't think it's overrated in general, but I think it has a slightly religious tinge that I have never felt comfortable with, personally. If you feel moments of joy, great, but it's not something you have to seek out. Either it happens, or it doesn't, and that's fine. There are many, MANY other positive emotions to feel.

This message was edited 1/13/2024, 10:24 AM

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It does have a religious tinge, doesn't it?And as for your first point: My aunt is often depressed and no one has ever seen the irony. Personally, I just love the sound of the name. It's short, sweet, and familiar.
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Yeah, I've heard people say this about names like Joy, Melody, Felicity, etc, and I think it's just silly. It's a name, no one is going to care if a Joy has depression, or if a Melody can't sing. Most people don't care about name meanings, in the first place.
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I will say that I often complained about being an ADHD kid named Haven, but I never liked my name to begin with.
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What does one have to do with the other?
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Haven: a peaceful, quiet place. Serene. Quiet.Me: all over the place, 100mphI was not quiet, peaceful, or serene.
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I think word names are typically more about values than characteristics, though. No reason someone with ADHD couldn't value a haven.

This message was edited 1/14/2024, 3:47 PM

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See my reply to Pickles.It's years past and was mostly teenage angst. My sister hates how common her name is (and yet named her daughter Isabelle.) The irony is strong - I hated how unusual my name was and named my kid Miriam, she hated how popular her name was and named her kid Isabelle.
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Oh. See, I would never make the connection if someone had ADHD and was named Haven.
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Probably because you aren't named Haven and you don't have ADHD. :-D Honestly, my name was just one more way that I was different and there were too many ways already.
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Sorry you went through that.

This message was edited 1/15/2024, 9:03 AM

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I like it but feels like a middle name or nickname (for Joyanna perhaps)I also disagree about it being overrated; rather it’s abused. One can be joyful and unhappy because joy transcends experiences, it’s not about ignoring the bad but having hope things will get better. But I’d say contentment is overrated, contentment often leads to complacency. But that’s just my two cents.
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Joy is pretty, but because of the possible pressure, I'd use it as a middle name. Contentment or Solace would be strange as names.
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I love, love the name Joy. Unfortunately it's the name of my melodramatic, narcissistic aunt. She visited me and wanted to go a Mexican restaurant. While there she tried ordering in Spanish, the server didn't Spanish. She goes "Why not?" Dude got a huge tip for dealing with her.I think I would have used Joy as a middle name if it wasn't for her. I'd have used it as a first name, but my husband doesn't like short names.I love the idea of finding small moments of joy, giving joyfully, etc. Joy isn't something that you should seek but find, treasure, and pass on.
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I love Joy, and Felicity, and Beatrice is a family name. I wouldn't use them in a sibset, but separately they are very usable. I've only known two people named Joy: one was very quiet and not very bright, and the other was ferociously ambitious. I still love the name!
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It's ok, prefer as a mn
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I like it. I think I prefer it as a middle name rather than a first name. Arabella Joy
Darina Joy
Amelia Joy
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