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When I was pregnant and looking for a house, I dealt with a very nice Italian estate agent (who found us a lovely home after trying for ages). I said I could name a girl quite easily but a boy would be difficult. She immediately advised me to use Sebastian: such an important-sounding name, she said. And I explained to her that in South Africa for a long time it was used by people without much ambition who lived on a neglected piece of land, ate their own vegetables and hens' eggs, did odd jobs rather badly and were known by the nn Basjan (BUSyun, more or less). This sounds appallingly snobbish, but sadly it was true. Now, English-speaking parents who follow overseas trends would be likely to consider it for their sons, though I haven't encountered one so far. The point is, names appeal to different people in different ways and different places. I find the name rather self-satisfied and inflated, but I wouldn't have told my lovely estate agent that!