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Help[Opinions] Re: Hulda
in reply to a message by Billina
I'm not sure how to explain.
First and foremost, I'm the child with the most knowledge of my ancestors. This isn't by choice, I live nearest to where my parents grew up (four hours) and have been caught in the crossfire between my aunt and my mother. I've heard both their stories and their accounts of growing up and have really seen they lived through. Their childhood was not pleasant. My grandfather was a sick man and my grandmother was a very selfish woman who didn't really love her kids. The only love my aunt and mother got was from their Aunt June and their grandmother, Hulda. It's very rare that I hear my mother speak of any of her relatives with love and respect - most of the time she refuses to even talk about them. But with Hulda she has a deep love and respect for her. That and the fact that I've really gotten to know Hulda through what she wrote and the stories she told has made me love her. She didn't have an easy life - she had an abusive, alcoholic husband, a son with brain damage (caused by a drunk doctor) and she lost her oldest son in WWII. Yet she managed to be this loving, amazing woman and gave my mom and her sister enough love to see them through childhood. So while I didn't know the woman personally I do see her legacy and I'm thankful for it.
Does that make any sense?
First and foremost, I'm the child with the most knowledge of my ancestors. This isn't by choice, I live nearest to where my parents grew up (four hours) and have been caught in the crossfire between my aunt and my mother. I've heard both their stories and their accounts of growing up and have really seen they lived through. Their childhood was not pleasant. My grandfather was a sick man and my grandmother was a very selfish woman who didn't really love her kids. The only love my aunt and mother got was from their Aunt June and their grandmother, Hulda. It's very rare that I hear my mother speak of any of her relatives with love and respect - most of the time she refuses to even talk about them. But with Hulda she has a deep love and respect for her. That and the fact that I've really gotten to know Hulda through what she wrote and the stories she told has made me love her. She didn't have an easy life - she had an abusive, alcoholic husband, a son with brain damage (caused by a drunk doctor) and she lost her oldest son in WWII. Yet she managed to be this loving, amazing woman and gave my mom and her sister enough love to see them through childhood. So while I didn't know the woman personally I do see her legacy and I'm thankful for it.
Does that make any sense?
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The emotions behind it make sense. I still think honoring should be for people you knew personally, but that's just how I look at it. If it's something you want to do, it doesn't matter what a bunch of strangers on the internet think.
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Here's the thing:
I do see it as honoring people I know personally. I think it would mean more to my mother to have a granddaughter named after her grandmother than it would to have a grandchild named after her. Ditto for my dad - I know he'd find it much more meaningful to have a child named after his sister and his dad than himself. So I do it in part to honor relatives I know.
I do see it as honoring people I know personally. I think it would mean more to my mother to have a granddaughter named after her grandmother than it would to have a grandchild named after her. Ditto for my dad - I know he'd find it much more meaningful to have a child named after his sister and his dad than himself. So I do it in part to honor relatives I know.
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