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Help[Opinions] Re: Stop gendering children through names!
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If the children don't identify with their physiological gender, then they change it. I know an Adrian who spent years as Phoebe.
As for unisex names, I think it is only polite to give a gendered name as a middle name. I believe in choice.
As for unisex names, I think it is only polite to give a gendered name as a middle name. I believe in choice.
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II just imagine that being given a gendered name ans being forced to perform a gender that you're not would be a struggle when someone's young.
People will always perceive other people as a specific gender, unisex name or not. It's just what humans do: we look at another person and form an idea in our mind, which comes with certain expectations.
I'm all for trans and all LGBTQIA+ rights. I've worked as a psychologist with trans people for years. I raise my children without any sort of gender expectation or gender stereotype. But I'm afraid society just doesn't work like that. Also, if people are open-minded, it can be fixed and a lot of people take it on very quickly if you tell them you don't identify with your biological sex. In a perfect world, none of this would be necessary, but it just is.
I'm all for trans and all LGBTQIA+ rights. I've worked as a psychologist with trans people for years. I raise my children without any sort of gender expectation or gender stereotype. But I'm afraid society just doesn't work like that. Also, if people are open-minded, it can be fixed and a lot of people take it on very quickly if you tell them you don't identify with your biological sex. In a perfect world, none of this would be necessary, but it just is.
Kids figure it out quickly. A friend has a trans son (FtoM) and he chose Finn. No one calls him Audrey anymore. He's about 15 and it took a while for him to chose a name that fit him. Another friend has a NB kid and even though they had a unisex name (Haven - only recently has it become mostly feminine, growing up I only knew male Havens) they chose a new name. It's an important part of coming to terms with your gender.
This message was edited 4/5/2024, 3:05 PM