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Help[Opinions] Re: I always wanted to explain this :) [m]
in reply to a message by Sabrina Fair
I'm sorry if it seems like I'm picking on you, I'm just trying to make sense of this concept.
You wouldn't stop bathing and just say "Oh I wish everyone could be more open-minded and accepting of different odor styles," would you? Then why would you deliberately give a child a name that's guaranteed to be misconstrued and cause problems?
Yes, people who make fun of other people suck. Hearing that is cold comfort after hours and hours of "Your a girl named MICHAEL? HAHAHA!"
You wouldn't stop bathing and just say "Oh I wish everyone could be more open-minded and accepting of different odor styles," would you? Then why would you deliberately give a child a name that's guaranteed to be misconstrued and cause problems?
Yes, people who make fun of other people suck. Hearing that is cold comfort after hours and hours of "Your a girl named MICHAEL? HAHAHA!"
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No it's okay :) I'll try to explain [m]
You wouldn't stop bathing and just say "Oh I wish everyone could be more open-minded and accepting of different odor styles," would you? No, I wouldn't, but I don't view that as the same thing as naming a child.
Then why would you deliberately give a child a name that's guaranteed to be misconstrued and cause problems? Let me put it this way: If *I* myself would hate being named it, I don't use it. Children can't pick their own names (whatever it may be). So that's what I go by. I honestly would not mind one bit being named Michael, yes there's the "your a girl", "you sure it's not Michaela", etc. Yes, my daughter might hate, and despise being called Michael, but my daughter Scarlet might as well.
I myself have a name that over the years has caused a lot of problems, and tons of teasing from it. I know from experience, I survived it, and I adore my name. Yes I admit I hated it when I was younger. Not one person spelled it right, I always was called something else either Serena or Samantha. No one could say it either. I always get the stupid witch reference which I despise.
So you are probably thinking "Then why make your kid go through all that too"? Because it's really not that bad, really. Annoying as heck sometimes yes, but I wouldn't have any other name. My mother no one ever gets her name right at all, yet she said she likes it, same for my friends Lynn, Robin, Loren, Chelsea who are male, same for my friend Season, Jordan, Amber who are girls. People just deal with it. I don't know how else to explain it.
If they hate their names badly enough they can change it when they are 18 then, but majority don't. It's just something going through all that that makes it just different I can't explain it. Not everyone, but a lot so it seems.
You wouldn't stop bathing and just say "Oh I wish everyone could be more open-minded and accepting of different odor styles," would you? No, I wouldn't, but I don't view that as the same thing as naming a child.
Then why would you deliberately give a child a name that's guaranteed to be misconstrued and cause problems? Let me put it this way: If *I* myself would hate being named it, I don't use it. Children can't pick their own names (whatever it may be). So that's what I go by. I honestly would not mind one bit being named Michael, yes there's the "your a girl", "you sure it's not Michaela", etc. Yes, my daughter might hate, and despise being called Michael, but my daughter Scarlet might as well.
I myself have a name that over the years has caused a lot of problems, and tons of teasing from it. I know from experience, I survived it, and I adore my name. Yes I admit I hated it when I was younger. Not one person spelled it right, I always was called something else either Serena or Samantha. No one could say it either. I always get the stupid witch reference which I despise.
So you are probably thinking "Then why make your kid go through all that too"? Because it's really not that bad, really. Annoying as heck sometimes yes, but I wouldn't have any other name. My mother no one ever gets her name right at all, yet she said she likes it, same for my friends Lynn, Robin, Loren, Chelsea who are male, same for my friend Season, Jordan, Amber who are girls. People just deal with it. I don't know how else to explain it.
If they hate their names badly enough they can change it when they are 18 then, but majority don't. It's just something going through all that that makes it just different I can't explain it. Not everyone, but a lot so it seems.
This message was edited 6/30/2009, 10:24 PM
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Oh, believe me, I know the hard name game. My name's not even on this site!
But my original point has been muddled, so I shall drop it. To each his own.
But my original point has been muddled, so I shall drop it. To each his own.
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Truce :) and sorry about that :/ geting your message muddled
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Yup :) I said my name Ann once I forgot for what , LOL I didn't use my FN
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Personally, I've known a few oddly-named people that I think a girl named Michael is absolutely normal compared to (girls names Iamunique and Jazzofmine, among others) and people didn't tease them about their names because thay knew them as people. Now I have known some people who had problems; my friend's brother Galen- a perfectly normal male name- got teased because the first syllable of his name was "gay". He got teased to much that he started failing in school; then he sartd going by his middle name and that worked out fine. You never know what people are going to find to tease you about; maybe it's your name, your clothes, etc. If someone is the type of person who teases people they will tease you anyway, no matter whether they can tease you about your name or not. I'd just name your kids whatever you want to, and then if it gives them problems make sure you have something to fall back on.
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