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"And she didn't neccessarily just say, "I'm fourteen, so I want kids!" Umm...but she should have atleast understood that at 14, when you have sex, you can get pregnant. I hate it when people say just because someone is young doesn't mean they didn't want to get pregnant. You shouldn't have sex unless you are mature enough to have kids because no matter how hard you try accidents happen.Okay, I am stepping off of my soapbox now.
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"I hate it when people say just because someone is young doesn't mean they didn't want to get pregnant"
I don't think anyone's saying she didn't know what she was doing and what could happen just because she was young. I have three kids, I've known you can get pregnant since health class in 6th grade. But that doesn't mean I wanted to get pregnant any of the times that I did. I was 17 when I got pregnant the first time. I knew what could come from having sex, but I sure as hell didn't want to get pregnant at that age. Stuff happens, sometimes it could be avoided very easily but that's life.I like both names although Lotus is nms. At least she didn't name them something like Lemmyn & Unique.
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And you don't know the circumstances around the pregnancyShe may have been raped, she might have a had a history of sexual abuse which puts a girl psychologically at risk of becoming promiscuous, she could have been physically abused, had an absent father- both of which put a young girl at risk of being manipulated by an older boy. So how about you don't be so judgemental on that soapbox.
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You're so right.There are so many other factors into it. This site isn't about the age people have children anyway. Its to discuss names.I like the combination. They're not really my style but they're cute. Lili and Lotus. Interesting and unique without going over the top. I like that she honored her grandmothers too.
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I agree
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I agree...I was judgemental. Mostly it is because the people I know of that get pregnant in their teens with unwanted pregnancies (not that I even know her pregnancy was unwanted from the start, but am just guessing) come up with some lame excuse that they thought they would never get pregnant. I am in no way attempting to downplay the things you mentioned nor am I saying those things did not happen to her. I was simply ranting about something that I often see and am annoyed by...it really had nothing to do with her but simply sparked a rant of mine.I'm sorry if I offended anyone.

This message was edited 8/26/2007, 5:52 PM

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Amen.n
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agree
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