[Opinions] Re: This question frustrates me.
I agree with you, but I think the OP recognizes that, too. It seemed to me that she is just trying to gauge the relative popularities of the pronunciations so that she can make a better decision. Dislike of a particular pronunciation is a very good reason to reconsider use of a name, for the reasons that you state--if it's rude to correct people and you hate a common pronunciation, then you're better off not using it.
Sadly, I have a few names that I love only with a pronunciation that wouldn't be used here. The main one is Judith. I love the German pronunciation, but I live in the USA and don't really like the American pronunciation, so there's no point in using it.