[Opinions] Childish....
in reply to a message by Chrisell
I have my own opinion about names and just because you like it it doesn't mean everyone has to. Please don't offend me again, Chrisell because this isn't the first time. I'm not trying to be rude I'm asking you politely. Please. I do think the name looks and sounds horrible and I was wondering about other peoples opinion. Isn't that what these boards are for? Or am I meant to pretend every name is beautiful. Or maybe my vocabulary isn't as broad as yours and I use "horrible" and "ugly" to describe things. Big deal. I'm 15, just accept it. Sorry if I sound rude, I'm not trying to be but believe it or not, I do get upset when you, or anyone else, say nasty things to me like "I'm childish" because I'm sure I'm one of the youngest regulars on this board and I sometimes feel like I'm being ganged up on just beacuse I'm younger than most of the others. Sorry for rambling but I just needed to get that out of my system because it's been there for a while. It's fine if you don't reply to this I just wanted to let you know.
Kaylie Anne xx
http://www.freewebs.com/romance_haha/index.htm
(my friends site)
Kaylie Anne xx
http://www.freewebs.com/romance_haha/index.htm
(my friends site)
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Um, if you don't want me to ever disagree with you just because you're young, then you can hardly argue with my description of your wording as "childish". You can't have it both ways. Either you behave like a grown-up and expect to be treated as one, or you use your youth as an excuse and get treated as a child.
"Horrible" was rude to my ears. You don't have to like my opinion of your wording, but don't throw a hissy fit about it. This is, as you say, an opinions board, and I'm as entitled to my opinion of your wording as you are to your opinion of a name.
You are not the youngest by a long stretch - we have posters as young as 9 here - but you are one of the young ones who has caused difficulties in the past through behaving immaturely, and you got told off for it. If you want advice on how to behave in an adult context, go ask Faerielights, who is 12 years old and never gets told off.
"Please don't offend me again, Chrisell because this isn't the first time."
Or what? Don't go around threatening people when you've got no authority. I'm a moderator here, and because of your early behaviour I had to tell you off a few times. Big deal. Quit whinging! You only make yourself look more childish by complaining about it.
Honestly, what a fuss over one word . . .
PS - I didn't see you getting upset over Ylva calling you ethnocentric, by the way. That's a far worse accusation than "childish", since you admit that you are a child. So where's your tantrum about Ylva? Hmm?
♦ Chrisell ♦
All we have to decide is what to do with the time that is given us. - J.R.R. Tolkien.
"Horrible" was rude to my ears. You don't have to like my opinion of your wording, but don't throw a hissy fit about it. This is, as you say, an opinions board, and I'm as entitled to my opinion of your wording as you are to your opinion of a name.
You are not the youngest by a long stretch - we have posters as young as 9 here - but you are one of the young ones who has caused difficulties in the past through behaving immaturely, and you got told off for it. If you want advice on how to behave in an adult context, go ask Faerielights, who is 12 years old and never gets told off.
"Please don't offend me again, Chrisell because this isn't the first time."
Or what? Don't go around threatening people when you've got no authority. I'm a moderator here, and because of your early behaviour I had to tell you off a few times. Big deal. Quit whinging! You only make yourself look more childish by complaining about it.
Honestly, what a fuss over one word . . .
PS - I didn't see you getting upset over Ylva calling you ethnocentric, by the way. That's a far worse accusation than "childish", since you admit that you are a child. So where's your tantrum about Ylva? Hmm?
All we have to decide is what to do with the time that is given us. - J.R.R. Tolkien.
This message was edited 12/18/2005, 6:22 AM
I wasn't threatening you.Or I didnt mean to sound like I was either.
So I'm sorry. In all honesty, I don't think I sounded childish. And I wasn't "using my youth as an excuse". I'm just sensitive. And I'm sure fairielights is great and all but if I go looking for advice from anone it'd be from my close friends and people I actually know. "Quit whinging". Hypocrite. I say a name is horrible and you call me childish. Yes i was childish at the start and I'm embarrassed about that but I wish you wouldn't hold it against me. I'm trying to be polite like I usually am but you're making it very difficult. I suppose you'll never accept me here now since I seemed to have "offended" you twice. I'd like to stay on these boards but if you'd rather I left then I will because i don't want to stay here if I'm unwanted. It's your decision. And I don't care what other posters say about me. I don't know what "ethnocentric" means. You are one of the moderators so that's why I care about what you think.
So I'm sorry. In all honesty, I don't think I sounded childish. And I wasn't "using my youth as an excuse". I'm just sensitive. And I'm sure fairielights is great and all but if I go looking for advice from anone it'd be from my close friends and people I actually know. "Quit whinging". Hypocrite. I say a name is horrible and you call me childish. Yes i was childish at the start and I'm embarrassed about that but I wish you wouldn't hold it against me. I'm trying to be polite like I usually am but you're making it very difficult. I suppose you'll never accept me here now since I seemed to have "offended" you twice. I'd like to stay on these boards but if you'd rather I left then I will because i don't want to stay here if I'm unwanted. It's your decision. And I don't care what other posters say about me. I don't know what "ethnocentric" means. You are one of the moderators so that's why I care about what you think.
Ok . . .
1) You didn't think you sounded childish, but I did. Since I am a decade older than you, this is no great surprise. No big deal.
2) I don't hold your early behaviour against you. But you seem to hold my position of authority against me. Think about that.
3) I'm not a hypocrite. I made one small comment, you threw a tantrum and brought up everything I'd ever done. You're whinging, I'm not, end of story.
4) I'm only a moderator when I put my "moderator hat" on, ie when I post as "Chrisell the Moderator". The rest of the time I'm just me. Everyone else seems to understand that.
5) I'm not going to pretend that every comment you make is justified just because you're sensitive and I'm sometimes a moderator. No way. Firstly, because it would be boring and hypocritical for me; and secondly because I'm not your mother and I don't have to shelter you from real life. And in real life, you can either be sensitive and spend all your time crying; or grow a thicker skin and deal with the odd disagreement.
Everyone gets negative comments from time to time. The fact that you've made such a palava about this one merely justifies the original comment. You have to learn not to take other peoples' opinions - and yourself - so seriously. Lighten up!
♦ Chrisell ♦
All we have to decide is what to do with the time that is given us. - J.R.R. Tolkien.
1) You didn't think you sounded childish, but I did. Since I am a decade older than you, this is no great surprise. No big deal.
2) I don't hold your early behaviour against you. But you seem to hold my position of authority against me. Think about that.
3) I'm not a hypocrite. I made one small comment, you threw a tantrum and brought up everything I'd ever done. You're whinging, I'm not, end of story.
4) I'm only a moderator when I put my "moderator hat" on, ie when I post as "Chrisell the Moderator". The rest of the time I'm just me. Everyone else seems to understand that.
5) I'm not going to pretend that every comment you make is justified just because you're sensitive and I'm sometimes a moderator. No way. Firstly, because it would be boring and hypocritical for me; and secondly because I'm not your mother and I don't have to shelter you from real life. And in real life, you can either be sensitive and spend all your time crying; or grow a thicker skin and deal with the odd disagreement.
Everyone gets negative comments from time to time. The fact that you've made such a palava about this one merely justifies the original comment. You have to learn not to take other peoples' opinions - and yourself - so seriously. Lighten up!
All we have to decide is what to do with the time that is given us. - J.R.R. Tolkien.