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in reply to a message by Ludwig
That makes sense.
Here's the odd thing for me:
I have no problem honoring Judie, Hulda and Helen because they embody qualities I like. I do have problems honoring my dad and people I know personally - because I know them too well. It's almost as if I would be honoring all of the person, including the bad. With the three above I'm honoring the spirit of adventure and doing what you want, so perhaps it's not strictly family honoring. I don't know - this has been a fascinating conversation that has made me do a lot of thinking.
Here's the odd thing for me:
I have no problem honoring Judie, Hulda and Helen because they embody qualities I like. I do have problems honoring my dad and people I know personally - because I know them too well. It's almost as if I would be honoring all of the person, including the bad. With the three above I'm honoring the spirit of adventure and doing what you want, so perhaps it's not strictly family honoring. I don't know - this has been a fascinating conversation that has made me do a lot of thinking.
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Right, I feel like you have a closer relationship with your ancestors than most people just because of circumstance. But that might not be true, and it's not my place to judge anyway. Any opinion anyone has is going to come from their own experience, and I just know that once I figured out my motives for being family tree obsessed I got a little disenchanted.
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Same here. A while ago, I tried starting a family tree and was enjoying it until I realized a lot of it had to do with fear of death. Then it got to a point when the people in my line were nothing more than names on a piece of paper, and that I knew nothing about them- not their likes and dislikes, their hobbies, their favorite color, nothing . I felt no connection to those people other than, "Well, they bumped uglies and made more people who bumped uglies until that made me . La dee da."
I know that one day I will just be a name on a piece of paper, if I'm lucky. But you know what? That's all right. I'm enjoying what I have now, and that's already more than what anyone can hope for. Immortality is a great idea, but isn't there for most people.
I know that one day I will just be a name on a piece of paper, if I'm lucky. But you know what? That's all right. I'm enjoying what I have now, and that's already more than what anyone can hope for. Immortality is a great idea, but isn't there for most people.
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Every human being is flawed. If I had a son tomorrow, his middle name would be Michael, despite the fact that my dad has done some cowardly, messed up things. There is "bad" in him, but that's part of what makes him beautiful. The whole package, so to speak.
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I think I just have issues with honoring my dad. I don't mind honoring my father-in-law, my mother-in-law, my brother or even my mother (and she was NOT that great of a mom when I was younger) but I do have problems with my dad. Kinda of odd. Thankfully, though, it's unlikely that we'll have more than one child and we've already have the names set in stone - Judith Cecilia and Thomas Alan or Michael Alan. (Depends on whether or not someone uses Thomas or Michael first, highly likely.)
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Nothing wrong with that. Like you said, this has become quite an interesting thread, and it's giving people something to think about in terms of honoring and family connection.
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