[Opinions] James
in reply to a message by Phebe
My mom avoided using the name James for my brother because she didn't want him to be known by any nickname but honestly, I don't know a single James under the age of like 25 that goes by anything but James, and I know quite a few. I think I've met like one or two Jims and I thought that was the weirdest thing. Any Jamie I've met had Jamie as their first name. Oh I know a Jay too but that's because he's a James Jr so I think they wanted to give him a nickname.
With the exception of certain names like Elizabeth, I find that most people will generally call you by what you introduce yourself as. So I've known Jacobs that just went by Jacob and a Kathryn that just went by Kathryn, Andrews that just went by Andrew, etc. The only kids I've seen have problems are girls named Elizabeth, people seem to instinctively shorten it to Liz. I guess people shorten my name too, Kimberly, to Kim sometimes but I go by that. But I bet if I only went by Kimberly most people wouldn't. I've actually had people do the reverse, introduce myself as Kim and they'll call me Kimberly because they "like Kimberly more" which is fine by me. I don't really care either way.
I think the only times you need to worry about it is if it's really instinctive like David nn Dave, Samuel nn Sam, where the nickname is fully in the full name, and it's just the dropping of the syllables after the first.
With the exception of certain names like Elizabeth, I find that most people will generally call you by what you introduce yourself as. So I've known Jacobs that just went by Jacob and a Kathryn that just went by Kathryn, Andrews that just went by Andrew, etc. The only kids I've seen have problems are girls named Elizabeth, people seem to instinctively shorten it to Liz. I guess people shorten my name too, Kimberly, to Kim sometimes but I go by that. But I bet if I only went by Kimberly most people wouldn't. I've actually had people do the reverse, introduce myself as Kim and they'll call me Kimberly because they "like Kimberly more" which is fine by me. I don't really care either way.
I think the only times you need to worry about it is if it's really instinctive like David nn Dave, Samuel nn Sam, where the nickname is fully in the full name, and it's just the dropping of the syllables after the first.
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Yeah I've met at least 5 James that are age 25 and younger and none of them go by Jim or Jimmy or any nn. James is short enough that it doesn't need a nn plus all the James nn's are very dated sounding but James is not dated. So you are actually more likely to met a young James without a nn than you are to meet a James nn Jim or Jimmy.
I know one Andrew that doesn't go by a nn. Only the names you listed that are longer than two syllables will be harder to get away with not using a nn. All the two syllable names I wouldn't worry about.
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I know one Andrew that doesn't go by a nn. Only the names you listed that are longer than two syllables will be harder to get away with not using a nn. All the two syllable names I wouldn't worry about.
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"With the exception of certain names like Elizabeth, I find that most people will generally call you by what you introduce yourself as."
I disagree, I always introduced myself with my calling name, but it always seems to be nicknamed (either by using just the first three syllables or dropping the last two)
Both my mother and I hated this. The first wasn't even a proper nickname (like making Cri out of Cristiana) and the second was a boys name.
It's one of the reasons I don't use the name anymore.
I disagree, I always introduced myself with my calling name, but it always seems to be nicknamed (either by using just the first three syllables or dropping the last two)
Both my mother and I hated this. The first wasn't even a proper nickname (like making Cri out of Cristiana) and the second was a boys name.
It's one of the reasons I don't use the name anymore.
Maybe it's where you're from
Because honestly, the majority of people aren't like that in my experience.
Because honestly, the majority of people aren't like that in my experience.