Do you mean like using the pronoun "she" or like the way we sometimes come up with like, little characters for the name? Like saying "oh I could see her wearing this colour and living here"? I know I do that a lot.
I watch this show about wedding dresses and sometimes they refer to the dresses as "she" and it totally grosses me OUT so I know what you're saying here I think.
I like Hattie a lot more than Harriet actually? And would probably use it unapologetically but would have to fight for it with most people who think it is stupid. Hattie is really saucy and I like the energy of the name more; Harriet is pretty snobby and uptight, I mean, comparatively, to other names?
I FEEL REALLY WEIRD LIKE YOU ARE DISGUSTED WITH US ALL AND LIKE I NEED TO DEFEND MYSELF I DON'T KNOW AAAUUUGHH