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I'm often called Star, which isn't a great name, but it's one of mine so I don't really mind it. If somebody who had just met me started calling me Star I wouldn't like it, but not because of the name itself; I wouldn't like it because it was presumptuous and overly familiar.

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I like Vincent but really don't like Vinnie. However, in the real world very few Vincents actually go by Vinnie so that's not much of an issue, and shouldn't deter anybody from using the name. The potential for a nickname you don't like shouldn't be the deciding factor against using a name you like; my daughter is Valerie and I hate the nn Val, but we just don't ever call her Val or refer to her to others as Val. She may get called Val by her friends but it'll be up to her to decide if she likes it or not. If she does, then her friends are welcome to call her that, and I won't act like I've got a stick up my butt when I hear her called Val; I just won't call her that myself.