In the past I've switched between disliking Benjamin and being neutral towards it. Now, I'm quite liking it. But there's a catch: I strongly, strongly,
strongly dislike Ben. It's everything I don't like in a name: plain, comfy, overused ... If I did name my son Benjamin, I wouldn't be calling him Ben under any circumstances. But his friends probably would - it's a very obvious nickname. Funnily enough, Benjamin isn't actually that popular in Scotland, compared with in other English-speaking places:
http://www.behindthename.com/php/search.php?terms=Benjamin&popterm=&gender=both&extra=pBen as a full name here, however, is chronically common (ranked at #7), which makes me dislike it all the more:
http://www.behindthename.com/php/search.php?terms=Ben&popterm=&gender=both&extra=p
Basically what I'm asking is this: If I were to name a son Benjamin sometime, what would be the chances that I could get away with calling him Benjie, not Ben? Would people automatically use Ben, or not, if introduced to him as Benjie? *Sigh*
PS ... Of course if he did want to go by Ben when he grew old enough to have an opinion, I wouldn't stop him. I'm thinking more of when he was younger, and what *other people* would do with the name.