View Message

I love Silvan. I don't like Troy, it sounds like a teenage jock and doesn't fit with Silvan.
I wouldn't change Silvan but I would change the middle name to something that fits it more. Sticking with T there's Tristan, Tristram, Taranis, Traian, Trevelyan, Troilus, Taliesin, Talfryn, Tiberius, Tiresias, Theodore, Theobald, Theodred, Theoden, Teodosio, Thorvald, Tam, Thaddeus, Tadeas, Tadeo, Taishi, Talon, Terrence, Torlief, Timeo, Timaeus, Tyr, Tycho, Turin... lots of things would work.

The most important opinions on your baby's name are yours and your husband's, no one else's.

---

My two cents: My dad's name is Sylvan, so I enjoy and have good associations with Sylvan and Silvan. However, Troy is not my style.

---

Your husband's family won't mind the name anymore once they get to know your son. My cousin named her baby something that I really disliked and frankly thought was a bad name, especially compared to her other children who have lovely names. But her son is 18 months old now and ever since I met him I have adored him and come to terms with his name. Although objectively I still don't like it, I couldn't imagine him with any other name, and now he is a good association of the name for me. I'm guessing a similar thing will happen with your husband's family.

Silvan is a very cool name. I wish I'd been born with such a cool name! Your choice is a fine one. Nobody will say anything about it once he's born (if they have any manners). It is literally impossible to choose a name that everyone will love, so focus on the opinions that actually matter: yours and your husband's.

In a vacuum, I think it's a nice name, but it's awfully close to Troye Sivan, an Australian celebrity. If that doesn't bother you, I think it's fine. I have no idea how famous that guy is. Maybe not very famous, but I've heard of him, which makes me think he must be at least sort of famous.

---

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Troye_Sivan

That's a great name. I would name a son Silvan. Seriously. There's nothing wrong with it.

---

You just made a mistake by sharing it before the boy is born.
Once he is named that, people will know to keep their opinions to themselves.
They aren't earning any control ... don't give it to them. You wouldn't let these people name your baby. So don't.
They will like the name when it is your son's name. When you know someone with a name, it always seems much better.
I've heard of family members who groused about a name, denying that they ever hadn't liked it, after it was given to a baby.

I remember stressing over my baby's name. My dad told me "When you introduce your baby, one-third will like the name, one-third won't like it and one-third won't remember it five minutes later." It helped me to relax. Name your baby Silvan Troy. It's a wonderful name. Your husband's family will have to get over it and they will once he's born. Have you ever met someone with a name that you didn't like but you changed your mind once you got to know them? I have. The name will grow on them. Congratulations and take care!

I love Silvan! And Troy is good, but I prefer Troyan.

---

I think the only opinion that should matter is yours and your husband’s, you can’t please everyone.

I don't really like it, but if you love it, don't worry about the family or others

I like it. I don't think your husband's family should get to decide the name of YOUR kid.