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[Opinions] Re: People with Top 10 names: how has life treated you?
My sister and my mom both have incredibly common names. Neither of them cared for it. My sister especially dislikes how popular her name is and how it dates her to a specific time (1980s). My brothers have common names and I think they tire of having so many people share their names.That said:
My sister named her son Kellan (unusual, but with a trendy sound) and Isabelle (quite common). I named my daughter Miriam. It was important to me to find a name that wouldn't date my daughter, nor suddenly shoot up in popularity. (My sister's name, Jessica, and my name, Haven.) I'd also prefer to have a name that was popular when I was born or dated when I was born than to have a name that became trendy when I was an adult. That is EXTREMELY annoying, especially as a mom. It gets really old having to explailn for the umpteenth time that I'm the mom, Miriam is the kid.

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I sort of abandoned this post after I created it, but I returned and am reading all the responses, and I'll be honest: I find it an absolute trip that Jessica & Haven are sisters. Your names sound like almost polar opposites in terms of style!
We're polars opposites in life as well.
That’s so strange people would assume your kid is the mom! I never would have thought of that.
Growing up I only came across adult men with my name. Now I only know little girls with it. It's both funny and frustrating, especially given that my husband also a newly trendy name (Xander.(I used my middle name for years and then was bullied into using Haven by my husband. I'm still salty.
Haven is such a lovely girls name, I have thought so since I was a child so for like 25 years.
I'm 42. Haven didn't start charting until I was 15, in 1996.Here's a stat;
How many boys are named haven?
1 out of every 1,602 baby girls and 1 out of every 13,681 baby boys born in 2021 are named Haven.I just recently spoke to someone on the phone who had a son named Haven,. My mom babysat a girl named Haven in the 1970s, she was named after her grandfather.
Several girls in my mother’s side of the family are either named Haven or have Haven as a middle name. The funny thing was until reading your comment, I had forgotten who they were named after: My great grandfather Albert, middle name Haven. It’s funny how a generation or two can just suddenly decide a name is feminine instead of masculine.