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Help[Opinions] Re: Considering changing my name/ some possible overthinking
in reply to a message by helianthus
I've changed my name as an adult. Yes, I think you are overthinking the "what if people think about-?" parts, but I totally get it. It's hard not to consider every possible angle! But, I absolutely never thought about disorders or dictators and how they sound like Edie, until you pointed it out! So do not worry too much about that.
I love Edie. Eden nn Edie is really lovely, but I understand that it may feel too religious for you. I see it as more retro myself (I think of Barbara Eden).
Frida "Edie" doesn't feel pretentious to me (in fact, it's a little frumpy-cute!). It's similar to Edie but also, not. I think this would work very well.
To throw another wrench in, what about Edwina "Edie"? It's just one extra letter from Edina, yet it's a whole new name.
I love Edie. Eden nn Edie is really lovely, but I understand that it may feel too religious for you. I see it as more retro myself (I think of Barbara Eden).
Frida "Edie" doesn't feel pretentious to me (in fact, it's a little frumpy-cute!). It's similar to Edie but also, not. I think this would work very well.
To throw another wrench in, what about Edwina "Edie"? It's just one extra letter from Edina, yet it's a whole new name.
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Thank you. Yeah, dismissing worries about what others I may think can be tricky.
I'm not even put off by the religious connotations of Eden, but I was considering what impression that may leave, like if it's a fundamentalist fave. Which is maybe silly, since the one Eden I met irl was not like that at all, and people can just talk to me and see I'm not, either (also I didn't even think of Barbara Eden).
I like frumpy cute! One thing that appeals to me about Frida is that it feels like a vintage name that'll come back, kinda like Eleanor.
And I've considered Edwina before...like the opposite of the character from Ab Fab, who changed it from Edwina to Edina to sound more hip and young. I like how it looks, the etymology, and the -WIN-uh pronunciation, but the -WEEEN- is unappealing to me. I've also thought of Edvina, since it reflects my heritage or whatever, without being exclusively Hungarian. Though it (along with Edvarda, Edelgard) have very bold, kinda hot vibes that I'd appreciate on someone else, but wouldn't really fit me, lol.
Did it take awhile to find the name you chose? Or did one stick out to you and make you realize "oh, that fits me"?
I'm not even put off by the religious connotations of Eden, but I was considering what impression that may leave, like if it's a fundamentalist fave. Which is maybe silly, since the one Eden I met irl was not like that at all, and people can just talk to me and see I'm not, either (also I didn't even think of Barbara Eden).
I like frumpy cute! One thing that appeals to me about Frida is that it feels like a vintage name that'll come back, kinda like Eleanor.
And I've considered Edwina before...like the opposite of the character from Ab Fab, who changed it from Edwina to Edina to sound more hip and young. I like how it looks, the etymology, and the -WIN-uh pronunciation, but the -WEEEN- is unappealing to me. I've also thought of Edvina, since it reflects my heritage or whatever, without being exclusively Hungarian. Though it (along with Edvarda, Edelgard) have very bold, kinda hot vibes that I'd appreciate on someone else, but wouldn't really fit me, lol.
Did it take awhile to find the name you chose? Or did one stick out to you and make you realize "oh, that fits me"?
It did take me a long time; I'm SO indecisive, and I kept looking for a name to "jump out" at me, but nothing ever did. I never had any magical, spiritual moment of finding THE ONE, though I sure tried! Like you, I liked a lot of things but didn't think I could pull them off, because I am extremely boring.
One thing I would do differently, if I did it again, is not worry so much about that. I wish I had been a little more bold with my choice, because I realize I actually love it when people don't "match" their names. I played it safe, and I regret that now.
I agree with you about Frida, I think it'll become cool again. You'd be ahead of the trends! Eden doesn't give me fundamentalist vibes; quite the opposite, actually. It feels very fashionable.
One thing I would do differently, if I did it again, is not worry so much about that. I wish I had been a little more bold with my choice, because I realize I actually love it when people don't "match" their names. I played it safe, and I regret that now.
I agree with you about Frida, I think it'll become cool again. You'd be ahead of the trends! Eden doesn't give me fundamentalist vibes; quite the opposite, actually. It feels very fashionable.