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Help[Facts] no nickname for me
My mother gave me the beautiful name of Cynthia, and no matter where I go, people shorten it to Cindy, and then they don't bother to notice that I would spell that Cyndi. My mother actually gave me the nickname right away, so most of my life I was called Cindy. Then, when I went back to work after staying home with my son, I decided I wanted to be "Cynthia" because it sounded more serious and professional. Well, I had the worst time telling people not to shorten it! One woman even went so far as to say, after I had told her my name is Cynthia, "Yea, Cindy." Are people lazy, or what? Then they act as if I'm being snooty or unfriendly because Cyndi is a perkyier, friendlier name. Any other people out there with this problem, and what is your advice?
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Did I write this and forget? Lol, everyone calls me Cyndi even after I give my name as Cynthia and they most times spell it Cindy even though I hate that way and go out of my way to show how it's spelled to anyone who has to write it
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Wow you actually came back after 21 years! Respect ✌🏻
I agree with the senior posters, you have every right to call them every ugly names they deserve LOL
I agree with the senior posters, you have every right to call them every ugly names they deserve LOL
This message was edited 11/14/2022, 4:45 PM
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I have a friend with this problem, his name is Timothy but since starting work he has found it hard to avoid being called Tim. I think he's given up now though!
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Here's what I do.....
My name is Zara and when I get "Zaahrahh" or "Sara" I repeat my name quickly after the mispronounciation. I generally only go to this effort if it's a new co-worker or someone who will be making the mistake often enough for it to really annoy me. It took one boss about 6 months to get it right...some teachers never got it. It is terribly rude, you deserve to be addressed by your name.
My name is Zara and when I get "Zaahrahh" or "Sara" I repeat my name quickly after the mispronounciation. I generally only go to this effort if it's a new co-worker or someone who will be making the mistake often enough for it to really annoy me. It took one boss about 6 months to get it right...some teachers never got it. It is terribly rude, you deserve to be addressed by your name.
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I don't think people are being lazy...
...or intentionally disrespectful (even though it is really rude). I would just firmly say, "Actually, I prefer Cynthia" and I think 9 times out of 10 that will do the trick. Its worked for me.
...or intentionally disrespectful (even though it is really rude). I would just firmly say, "Actually, I prefer Cynthia" and I think 9 times out of 10 that will do the trick. Its worked for me.
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"One woman even went so far as to say, after I had told her my name is Cynthia, 'Yea, Cindy.' Are people lazy, or what?"
****** After you've already told someone that your name is "Cynthia", and they reply to you in the very next breath: "Yea, Cindy", I wouldn't say that's "lazy". I'd say that's freakin' disrespectful. I'm with Sarahjeanne on her suggested approach to people like that. Except, if it was me, I'd go one step further. I'd say to that person: "Are you freakin' deaf, or just retarded?"
"Then they act as if I'm being snooty or unfriendly because Cyndi is a perkyier, friendlier name."
****** Eh, let 'em think what they want. Those kind of people have already proven that their opinions don't count for much, anyway.
"Any other people out there with this problem, and what is your advice?"
****** I have chosen to go by the nickname of "Nan" in my business and social life because it's easier for me than having to 'splain my name all the time to strangers. Plus, it's easier for my friends to type. :)
I don't view anyone who calls me "Nan" to be lazy or anything, and I know that if I'd told any of my friends that I preferred to be called "Nanaea" all the time, they would make an effort to do that, too. But it's no big deal to me, either way, and I do view "Nan" as an affectionate sorta nickname.
Sometimes I'll affectionately shorten some of my friends' names, too -- like "Pav" (for Pavlos) and "SJ" (for Sarahjeanne). If I thought, for a moment, that any of them didn't like it, then I wouldn't do it. It's that simple. It's a basic matter of respect.
Since you've already made it clear to people that you don't want to be called "Cindy" (and I don't blame you, coz "Cindy" sounds kinda bimbo-ish, anyway), they need to respect your preference. If they don't show you that respect, then you have every right to SMASH 'EM! :)
From "The Eleven Satanic Rules of the Earth":
Rule #11: "When walking in open territory, bother no one. If someone bothers you, ask him to stop. If he does not stop, destroy him."
-- Nanaea
****** After you've already told someone that your name is "Cynthia", and they reply to you in the very next breath: "Yea, Cindy", I wouldn't say that's "lazy". I'd say that's freakin' disrespectful. I'm with Sarahjeanne on her suggested approach to people like that. Except, if it was me, I'd go one step further. I'd say to that person: "Are you freakin' deaf, or just retarded?"
"Then they act as if I'm being snooty or unfriendly because Cyndi is a perkyier, friendlier name."
****** Eh, let 'em think what they want. Those kind of people have already proven that their opinions don't count for much, anyway.
"Any other people out there with this problem, and what is your advice?"
****** I have chosen to go by the nickname of "Nan" in my business and social life because it's easier for me than having to 'splain my name all the time to strangers. Plus, it's easier for my friends to type. :)
I don't view anyone who calls me "Nan" to be lazy or anything, and I know that if I'd told any of my friends that I preferred to be called "Nanaea" all the time, they would make an effort to do that, too. But it's no big deal to me, either way, and I do view "Nan" as an affectionate sorta nickname.
Sometimes I'll affectionately shorten some of my friends' names, too -- like "Pav" (for Pavlos) and "SJ" (for Sarahjeanne). If I thought, for a moment, that any of them didn't like it, then I wouldn't do it. It's that simple. It's a basic matter of respect.
Since you've already made it clear to people that you don't want to be called "Cindy" (and I don't blame you, coz "Cindy" sounds kinda bimbo-ish, anyway), they need to respect your preference. If they don't show you that respect, then you have every right to SMASH 'EM! :)
From "The Eleven Satanic Rules of the Earth":
Rule #11: "When walking in open territory, bother no one. If someone bothers you, ask him to stop. If he does not stop, destroy him."
-- Nanaea
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:)
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Being the person I am, if someone continuosly called me something I asked them not to, I would call them something not very attractive. It may sound immature, but I'm sure they'll get the point. For example, if spmeone named Walter kept calling you Cindy , call him Walrus in all seriousness. LOL Or someone named Sam or Samantha , call them Spam. That's just me, though. Sometimes you have to talk to people on their level. LOL Just my suggestion, Cynthia . :)
Sarahjeanne
Sarahjeanne
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I like the way you think :)
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