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Help[Opinions] No it's okay :) I'll try to explain [m]
in reply to a message by MoonAgeDaydreamer
You wouldn't stop bathing and just say "Oh I wish everyone could be more open-minded and accepting of different odor styles," would you? No, I wouldn't, but I don't view that as the same thing as naming a child.
Then why would you deliberately give a child a name that's guaranteed to be misconstrued and cause problems? Let me put it this way: If *I* myself would hate being named it, I don't use it. Children can't pick their own names (whatever it may be). So that's what I go by. I honestly would not mind one bit being named Michael, yes there's the "your a girl", "you sure it's not Michaela", etc. Yes, my daughter might hate, and despise being called Michael, but my daughter Scarlet might as well.
I myself have a name that over the years has caused a lot of problems, and tons of teasing from it. I know from experience, I survived it, and I adore my name. Yes I admit I hated it when I was younger. Not one person spelled it right, I always was called something else either Serena or Samantha. No one could say it either. I always get the stupid witch reference which I despise.
So you are probably thinking "Then why make your kid go through all that too"? Because it's really not that bad, really. Annoying as heck sometimes yes, but I wouldn't have any other name. My mother no one ever gets her name right at all, yet she said she likes it, same for my friends Lynn, Robin, Loren, Chelsea who are male, same for my friend Season, Jordan, Amber who are girls. People just deal with it. I don't know how else to explain it.
If they hate their names badly enough they can change it when they are 18 then, but majority don't. It's just something going through all that that makes it just different I can't explain it. Not everyone, but a lot so it seems.
Then why would you deliberately give a child a name that's guaranteed to be misconstrued and cause problems? Let me put it this way: If *I* myself would hate being named it, I don't use it. Children can't pick their own names (whatever it may be). So that's what I go by. I honestly would not mind one bit being named Michael, yes there's the "your a girl", "you sure it's not Michaela", etc. Yes, my daughter might hate, and despise being called Michael, but my daughter Scarlet might as well.
I myself have a name that over the years has caused a lot of problems, and tons of teasing from it. I know from experience, I survived it, and I adore my name. Yes I admit I hated it when I was younger. Not one person spelled it right, I always was called something else either Serena or Samantha. No one could say it either. I always get the stupid witch reference which I despise.
So you are probably thinking "Then why make your kid go through all that too"? Because it's really not that bad, really. Annoying as heck sometimes yes, but I wouldn't have any other name. My mother no one ever gets her name right at all, yet she said she likes it, same for my friends Lynn, Robin, Loren, Chelsea who are male, same for my friend Season, Jordan, Amber who are girls. People just deal with it. I don't know how else to explain it.
If they hate their names badly enough they can change it when they are 18 then, but majority don't. It's just something going through all that that makes it just different I can't explain it. Not everyone, but a lot so it seems.
This message was edited 6/30/2009, 10:24 PM
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