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Help[Opinions] Re: Jiblet
in reply to a message by Vigdis
I don't have a problem with private nicknames used only by family and only until the child objects. I think they become uncomfortable just naturally as a kid gets verbal. I'm not criticizing them for referring to the unborn baby as Jiblet - I know it feels weird to think of ways to refer to a baby before it's born. I'm criticizing the idea of actually naming a person that, though. I thought that is what you meant when you said "she decided she really liked the sound of it" - that she was thinking she was going to name the baby that.
And since I was APPALLED I TELL YOU, SO APPALLED, I misread the question about names lending themselves to the nickname and thought the question was about nicknames based on that name that would "disguise" it. oops
But still ... it's like she's naming the baby in honor of it being "Jiblet" instead of naming it as a person. They can call the kid Jiblet casually no matter what they name him/her! It's not a real nickname! It's just a pet-name. Like, it's fine to address someone as Dear or Sweetie or McMuffin no matter what their name is. I called one of my kids Bean and the other Tater for the first five or so years of their lives, and it had nothing to do with anything at all.
It's fine to make a pet name that plays on their real name, like calling someone named Sabina "Bean" or Taylor "Tater," but I think it's weird to decide you want to call someone "Bean" affectionately and then choose their real name to be Sabina *because* you want to call her "Bean" ... Just call her Bean if you want! Nobody else will get it, and that's OK ... I don't think they should turn her name into an excuse to call her Jiblet. She's going to outgrow it.
answering the question anyway
Gabriel / Gabriela
Giselle
Jillian
Jacob
Shelby
- mirfak
And since I was APPALLED I TELL YOU, SO APPALLED, I misread the question about names lending themselves to the nickname and thought the question was about nicknames based on that name that would "disguise" it. oops
But still ... it's like she's naming the baby in honor of it being "Jiblet" instead of naming it as a person. They can call the kid Jiblet casually no matter what they name him/her! It's not a real nickname! It's just a pet-name. Like, it's fine to address someone as Dear or Sweetie or McMuffin no matter what their name is. I called one of my kids Bean and the other Tater for the first five or so years of their lives, and it had nothing to do with anything at all.
It's fine to make a pet name that plays on their real name, like calling someone named Sabina "Bean" or Taylor "Tater," but I think it's weird to decide you want to call someone "Bean" affectionately and then choose their real name to be Sabina *because* you want to call her "Bean" ... Just call her Bean if you want! Nobody else will get it, and that's OK ... I don't think they should turn her name into an excuse to call her Jiblet. She's going to outgrow it.
answering the question anyway
Gabriel / Gabriela
Giselle
Jillian
Jacob
Shelby
- mirfak
This message was edited 12/29/2023, 4:28 PM
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Plus - at least for me - the fetus and infant are two separate entities. For me Poppy was an idea of a child, Miriam was an actual child. Once my child was in my arms she completely stopped being Poppy. And I remember that we were planning to use the nickname Merry Mae when I was pregnant. It did NOT fit her at all.
I've never met anyone who continued to use the bump nickname for their actual baby. We'll tell M about why we called her Poppy, and we have a few poppy-theme things around. But that's because of the story behind the name, how small she was when we discovered I was pregnant.
CKE once talked about a mon naming her son Rowdy because of how it would sound and look at high school football games. It's a clear picture of moms having a specific idea of what they want their child to be instead of allowing the child to develop naturally. Like me continuing to use the nickname Merry Mae and forcing my daughter to fit it, instead of letting a different nickname develop naturally.
I've never met anyone who continued to use the bump nickname for their actual baby. We'll tell M about why we called her Poppy, and we have a few poppy-theme things around. But that's because of the story behind the name, how small she was when we discovered I was pregnant.
CKE once talked about a mon naming her son Rowdy because of how it would sound and look at high school football games. It's a clear picture of moms having a specific idea of what they want their child to be instead of allowing the child to develop naturally. Like me continuing to use the nickname Merry Mae and forcing my daughter to fit it, instead of letting a different nickname develop naturally.
Perfect response! It's like calling a kid "baby" and wanting a name to match that.